Why We Are So Detached?

Too frequently the trend in our society is for individuals to be detached from one another. Automobiles have taken us off the streets, where we used to greet each other and stop to chit chat. Cubicles have removed a bit of the humanity in working, as have factories and even computers to some extent.


Television has planted us firmly in our living rooms, instead of out with other people. Even movie theaters, where many people get together, cut us off from true conversation because we’re staring at a big screen. You could also add to the list cell phones and social networks. It takes away from face o face conversation.


And while I’m not railing against any of these inventions (except perhaps the cubicle), what we must stay away from is the tendency to be focused on ourselves too much. This only results in being detached from our fellow human beings. We have a tendency towards selfishness rather than giving to or helping our brothers and sisters in humanity. I’m not saying we’re all like that, but it can happen, if we’re not careful.

This can be true when we are networking with business professionals.  The tendency to use voicemail, and email to communicate, exclusively can be our downfall.  As you go to networking events and you meet new people find a way to make face to face contact.  Schedule a time when you can talk over coffee or while your having lunch.   Learn as much as you can about the person across from you because someday, in some manner you may be able to help them.  It may be personally or professionally but make the meeting about them, not you.
So strike back against the selfishness and greed of our modern world, and help out a fellow human being today. Not next month, but today. Helping a fellow human being, while it can be inconvenient, has a few humble advantages:


1. It makes you feel better about yourself.


2. It connects you with another person, at least for a moment, if not for life.


3. It improves the life of another, at least a little.


4. It makes the world a better place, one little step at a time.


5. And if that kindness is passed on, it can multiply, and multiply.


So take just a few minutes today, and do a kindness for another person. It can be something small or the start of something big. Ask them to pay it forward. Put a smile on someone’s face. Don’t know where to start? Next post I will give you an extremely incomplete list, just to get you thinking — I’m sure you can come up with thousands more if you think about it.


In Gratitude,
Beverly
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Your Hurting Inner Child

Many times we wonder why we react to things the way we do.  We look back and chastise ourselves for the way we handled a situation.  We also find ourselves doing things in a certain way and wonder why.

In many instances our actions and the way we react is routed in our childhood. 

In an article on Yahoo News, researchers were observing third to sixth graders on the playground.  They were entering gossip into their PDA's.  Such as: "Is the cootie girl in your class?" and "Did you hear Dan cheated on the exam?"  They watched as children stood in a group and conspicuously pointed and laughed at another student.   Guess what?  Girls were more often the source and the target of gossip.  It didn't ease up as they got older it actually spiked in sixth grade.  (http://news.yahoo.com/s/yblog_thelookout/anti-bullying-program-quashes-playground-gossip)

I remember those years when I was the object of gossip and it hurt me into my adult years.  Many of you have the same issue.  I was teased about my looks, my singing voice, my strict parents and I had no way of combating the pain that I even remember to this day.  I was determined to prove all of them wrong and I set on a course that has affected me most of my life.

What can we do about clearing the lessons learned as a helpless child and begin to change the way we react to issues in our lives?  We can mentally go back and help our Inner Child to know that s/he is now safe and has no need to fear.   You see, your Inner Child is also your subconscious mind at work. 

There is no past or future there is only NOW.  When you think about what you ate for dinner yesterday, you can almost taste the food or feel the atmosphere of where you were.  Physically you are experiencing that thought as though it was happening now.  The same with the things of your childhood.

When you were a child you had to develop some type of coping mechanism to allow you to deal with any problem, issue, hurt, abuse, etc in your life.  Because you were not an adult, you did not have the skills that you have today.   The way you coped became a part of you and part of your subconscious.

A meditative method for changing this is to visualize going back and talking with your Hurting Inner Child and discuss the hurt, tell your child that they don't have to worry any more.  You are there to take care of them.  They do not have to do the things or react the way they had in the past.  It is time to allow the Adult to take conscious control   It may take several meditations to get through many of the issues that your subconscious is controlling.  Rest assured you can go back and make the change.

As you work through each issue that you feel is holding you back or keeping you from growing, replace the pain, the hurt, and any other feelings with love, joy, happiness, confidence, etc.  Where there is an emotional void we must fill it with what we want instead of what was there before.

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Resolutions for 2011

How many of us have made "Resolutions"? Most of us will have broken several of them before the end of the week. This of course is normal. Statistics show that only about 15% of New Years goals are maintained.

The definition of resolution says: the act of resolving or determining upon an action or course of action, method, or procedure. Wikipedia defines a New Year's resolution as a commitment that an individual makes to a project or the reforming of a habit, often a lifestyle change that is generally interpreted as advantageous. It is a commitment for change that normally has the word "hard" associated with the item.

Unfortunately most New Year’s Resolutions are expected to be broken. They come in the form of habit modifications. Quitting smoking, hitting the gym and staying organized are all based on routine habits. We keep trying and trying not realizing we have issues that need to be resolved (fixed) first.
　
Now let’s look at my favorite word - Intention - Intentional behavior can be thoughtful and deliberate goal-directed-ness. As a person’s intention to perform an action is his or her specific purpose in doing so, the end or goal that is aimed at, or to fix the mind upon (something to be accomplished).

For me setting an intention is more powerful than making a resolution. It even sounds more powerful with its meaning "to fix the mind upon." Do you know that another meaning for resolve is "to solve again". As I have to re-solve the problem again with new options. So every year people have to RE-solve to make the same changes again and again.

James Allen says, "Circumstance does not make a man, it reveals him to himself'." What you have in your life is a reflection of your thoughts.  As you take responsibility for your life, you are able to change it.  Take responsibility for of the thoughts, feelings, beliefs and attitudes that are creating your world and choose what you want instead.

Wouldn’t it be nice to set an intention; make the command; receive inspired actions and not have to RE-solve next year.

So are you ready to set your intentions for 2011?  First let’s look at the Manifesting Process:

Step 1. Clarify your intention, write it down and then set it. For example ‘I intend to reduce my weight by 20 lbs this year and not regain it’. As clearly as possible, visualize how it would be when this occurs. What do you look like? How do your close fit? What will your friends and family say? How do you feel?

Step 2. Is this what you really want. Ask yourself "What if I lost 20 lbs would I enjoy the my new look? Will my life change? What would I do different?. Etc. Does your love one like you as you are and would the change in you make them happy? Or do they have an issue with themselves that would manifest with your change? Is this what you really want? If it isn’t then throw it away and think of what you truly want.

Step 3.). If you have any limiting beliefs concerning your intention you cannot manifest what you desire. (I tried to lose weight last year and I failed. I just can’t lose this weight.)

Step 4. Formulate your One Command (your intention, your resolution) to remove the limitations and to ask for what you want.

Step 5. Do the six steps of The One Command. Be grateful and thankful and know that it is yours. This is a very simple process.

We still need to take action by putting into place the things that will cause the appropriate reaction. Some helpful hints are:

1. Replace a lost need. Most habits fulfill a purpose of some kind, even if the side-effects are damaging. You might watch television to relax, even if you have other things you would rather do. You might eat junk food to feel full, even if it isn’t healthy. Or you may eat because you are bored. Consider what you're giving up in your habit change and make an effort to replace those lost needs. Go for a walk when boredom sets in or put on music and dance. Have something that needs cleaning. Do it and not eat.

2. Commit for a Month. Stick to your change for at the very least thirty days. Less than this and you're likely to fall back into old habits. Three to four weeks is all it takes to shape a new habit.

3. Keep a Journal. Go to the discount store and find yourself the best expensive looking journal you can find. You are more likely to write in it.  Think Brigett Jones Diary!! (Tuesday Morning or a place here in Pa called Ollie’s Outlet and I found leather bound or pleather bound journals for about $2).  Or open a new word document and commit to writing a couple of sentences every day about your progress.  I have found keeping a journal helpful in reminding me about my intention and commitment. It helps center on the change I commanded to achieve. When I record what I do, I can’t ignore it.

4. Increase Positive Feedback. If you reward your behavior it will increase. (Give yourself 1 night for a small indulgence when you have followed your intention for 7 days in a row). Punish a behavior and it will be reduced. (Have to walk an extra mile for each time I am over my calorie limit). This feedback mechanism is common to all animals with a nervous system from sea slugs to human beings. If your new habit makes you feel worse than the old habits, it can’t last. Do something that makes the new habit (which is good for you) a pleasure. If it is changing your eating habits, set the table with your best china. Put your food in serving bowls or if portions are a problem, use a small plate and serve it in the kitchen and then put the excess food away.

5. Think years, not months. A diet that consists of grapefruit and water isn’t going to provide nutritional needs to last your whole life. Work on creating changes to your diet, work, exercise or routines that can be sustained for years. Crash diets and 18-hour workdays will eventually break.

6. Be grateful everyday for the progress you have made. Record it in your Journal.

It is nice to be able to live life without fear and anxiety and not have to Re-Solve the issue.   Using The One Command and its 6 step process help you make it easily and effortlessly. 
　
Ben Stein says: The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: decide what you want.

I want you to have an inspired 2011 and may you realize all of your intentions.

In Gratitude,
Beverly
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Christianity and The Law of Attraction

When Oprah Winfrey introduced the book "The Secret" the metaphysical world was rejoicing.  Vindication, at last.

Many Christians were torn between what was being told in the book and their belief system.  I was one of those.  My son, who is a Youth Minister, told me that The Law of Attraction did not exist.   

Does something not exist because we don't see it or feel it or touch it?  Does gravity not exist?  Does electricity not exist?  Does the Holy Spirit not exist?  We see the effects therefore why wouldn't they exist.   When we have a magnitude of evidence about something, the more certainty we assign to it; when there is enough evidence, we call the information a fact, even if it isn't 100% certain, or fully understood.  Why challenge the existence of The Law of Attraction?  I think it is because it could cause a collapse of many belief systems that are currently in place and are limiting to our lives.  For me it has strengthened my belief.

I had heard of the LOA and I knew its basic premise but I was not for or against the idea.  I was forced to read "The Secret" by my good friend Debra: "Bev you got to read it."  I mean this literally.  She bought me a copy of the book and we sat down to read together.  It opened my eyes to a whole new world of possibilities.  I began to devour books and information on the Internet.  I began to ask questions that I had never asked before and the answers came from many different and surprising directions.

The most amazing thing was that I began to review my life for signs that LOA was indeed in force.  According to the books, it is in force whether you believe or not.  As I began my retrospective journey, I realized that it was true.  Yes, I know that we can find anything that we want if we look hard enough.  I didn't look hard.  I just remembered significant episodes in my life. Let me share one with you.

When I was a freshman in college (a long time ago), the coat style of the day was a parka.  They were either short or 3/4 length.  I wanted one because everyone had one.  I didn't dare ask my parents because they were struggling to pay for me to be in a private college in West Virginia.  One day I went to pick up my mail at the student union and there was a note in my mailbox that I had a package.  Now as all college students know a package means a care package from home.   I was ready for one.  I got the box but it was light in weight and it was not from my Mother.  It was from my neighbor.   I took it back to my dorm and opened it.  I screamed.  I cried.  I was astonished.  There in the box was a pink parka.  Yes, a beautiful pink parka.  I kept asking everyone I showed it to, "How did she know?  Why would she send this to me?  I have a great coat."  I never asked her why she sent it.  I sent her a most heartfelt thank you note.

Today, I know that I asked for it in such a way that God put it into Miss Grace's heart to send me that coat.  I had the desire and the belief that I could get such a coat.  I was working on campus and putting money away.  I never thought that the Universe would answer my desire mainly because I didn't believe that I could ask for something so selfish and receive.

I have more examples of people and things showing up in my life at the right time.  I also have examples of when they didn't show up.  However even before I started this journey, I recognized that when I didn't get something, it was always for my good.   I didn't get a specific job and I was upset; however later I found that the people in the position got laid off.  I would have been one of them.  I later got the job I really wanted; in a wonderful location; with better pay and I never got laid off. 

Confusion about what is and what isn't; what is fact and what is fiction is constantly being brought to the attention of this world and our universe. Christians and other religious people can become conflicted as they read books about the LOA.  This conflict had to be resolved for me via the scriptures and it has.   Let me share the first of many with you.

After I share this passage with you, I want you to take the time to think about what it says and how it can have an impact on your life and that of others.

Matthew 7:7-11
 "Ask, and it will be given to you; search, and you will find; knock, and the door will be opened for you. ⁸For everyone who asks receives, and everyone who searches finds, and for everyone who knocks, the door will be opened. ⁹Is there anyone among you who, if your child asks for bread, will give a stone? ¹⁰Or if the child asks for a fish, will give a snake? ¹¹If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good things to those who ask him!"
Begin by asking.

In Gratitude,
Beverly
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What is "The One Command"

"What is TOC?" The simple answer: it is a 6 step process, discovered by Asara Lovejoy, that opens your awareness to amazing untapped capacities you have right within you.  It is an invitation to enter into powerful portions of your mind that contain extraordinary abilities.  It brings forth the greatness we all have, that is easily enjoyed, while doing this powerful system of The One Command.

So what are these 6 easy to learn steps? It starts with Grounding ourselves with our body and the earth.   Next we Align ourselves with the energy field around us.   Then we lower our brain wave into the Theta state. We then issue the command which is composed of 3 parts:  
       Part 1 is the beginning of TOC: I don't know how I,   
       Part 2 is what we want. i.e. have $10,000 in the bank.   
       Part 3 is the blessing:  "I only know that I do now and I am fulfilled."

After issuing the command and integrate it into ourselves through visualization, we then expand.  We expand on the greater capacity that we are and lastly we Receive and express gratitude.

These six steps take us to our greatest capacity as earthly beings. Many of you are familiar with "The Secret" and through this movie or book you were introduced to the Law Of Attraction.  The LOA says that "We will attract into our experience that with which we are in vibrational resonance."

Everything in this Universe - even that which appears to be empty space - is Energy. That includes you, me, the chair, and even  (especially) your thoughts and feelings.  You know...atoms, molecules, subatomic particles...that kind of "quantum stuff."   When something vibrates at a certain frequency, it naturally resonates with and ATTRACTS things with the same frequency.   Basically you need to get your vibrations to what it is that you want.
 
However most of us do not know how to do this.  We have desires and requests but most of us got the same life we had.   So how do we get ourselves to send out the great vibrations that bring us the life we want without hard work.  Why do people seem to fail when it comes to activly dealing with the Law of Attraction.

All of the common methods depend on our beta, logical, problem solving, reality brain to assist us in making the change.   How can you affirm that you have $10,000 in the bank when you only have $100? How can you say you are living in a certain house when you are in an apartment?  Our mind will not allow us to feel like it can be so.  That is the wonder of TOC it bypasses the beta mind.

By saying "I don’t know how" we immediately disengage the Beta brain and allows it to relax. You basically said I am not going to worry about how I have it because I don't have a clue how but I do.  Also our subconscious mind hears "I know how", (it eliminates the don't) because we do, deep down in our consciousness we know how.  "I only know that I do now" allows our mind to know that this is so.   Doing this allows our minds and body to vibrate with the knowledge that we are capable of anything. We are capable of having $10,000 in the bank or the home of our dreams.  While issuing the statement we do not have to be concerned with how it will happen but we know it is so now.

Did God say: Let there be light by doing, this and this and then this and this?  No, He spoke and it was so.  We have been endowed with the ability to ask for and receive our desires.  I will talk more about this in another entry.

Learning and practicing The One Command you will put The Law of Attraction on steriods.
 
Until Next Time. 

In Gratitude,
Beverly Jones
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